“Done is better than perfect” – for a perfectionist

You know you’ve made it when . . . you’re words are quoted out of context and not attributed. My perfectionism therapy slogan is not a business motto – “Done is better than perfect,” for those of us who have trouble stopping and just need to turn in the Mona Lisa as is, whether or not the smile has a bit of a quirk.

*The quote is attributed to Sheryl Sandberg in a 2013 book Lean In (goodreads) It also is the focus of a Dec. 22 2011 article regarding perfectionism in the tendency to over-tweak a project on lifehacker.com. So it may be a common maxim for those of us who tend to continue refining work past the point of ideal use of time. I mentioned the quote in my own writing in a post on Oct. 7, 2011:

One day at a time is a great motto, I never managed to incorporate a “one book at a time” slogan but a couple personal slogans that have helped me include, “Done is better than perfect” (because perfect is impossible.) and “Slow down, you move too fast, time to make a good thing last” (part of the 59th Street Bridge song). Simon and Garfunkel performing the 59th Street Bridge song live. The song was written by Paul Simon. [Youtube link]

My point isn’t about attribution but about perfectionism – the slogan is not a business motto in my understanding of the phrase but is a reminder to not nitpick the minor details when the project has achieved the necessary goals of completion.

Also worth noting: Banning things and people is a primitive habit and not really that supportive of diversity.

Read more about writing better and more effective mission and core value business statements, (the article makes some good points): https://hbr.org/2018/02/ban-these-5-words-from-your-corporate-values-statement

The travel ban was too sweeping and inhibits diversity and inclusiveness. Banning socially is a form of emotional manipulation and domestic violence. Role modeling emotional manipulation and domestic violence as a normal way of life is likely not healthy for children to observe.

A few resources for helping cope with a tendency towards perfectionism – it is a form of anxiety:

Disclaimer: Opinions are my own and the information is provided for educational purposes within the guidelines of fair use. While I am a Registered Dietitian this information is not intended to provide individual health guidance. Please see a health professional for individual health care purposes.

Inspiring Words about Peace – Kaiser Permanente Memorial Park

A memorial sculpture park was created after 9/11 by Mario Chiodo to remind us of the words and vision of peace shared by 25 great healers, leaders, writers, artists, activists from around the world. The Henry J. Kaiser Memorial Park is a sculpture park in Oakland, California includes four large works that combine words and images of the 25 leaders with 14 additional local activists including Henry J. Kaiser, founder of Kaiser Institute and Kaiser Permanente, and a fireman is included to represent the workers and others who lost their lives on 9/11/2001. The 25 heroes are also portrayed individually with one of their quotes in two rows of smaller brass sculptures and plaques.

The tragic events of September 11, 2001, compelled Mario Chiodo to create the Remember Them monument. Embedded deep within the foundation is an original steel fragment from the New York World Trade Center. A sculpted replica of the fragment is shown above. It is Mario’s hope to inspire the world to work together to turn tragedy into peace.

Remember Them – by Mario Chiodo

Remember Them – by Mario Chiodo

Remember them when you walk with freedom.

Remember them when you think of liberty.

Remember them when your children get on the school bus.

Remember them while you sleep without fear.

 

Remember them when you are hungry or lonely.

Remember them when you thirst for knowledge.

Remember them when you cannot see the light or hear the birds sing.

Remember them when you are lost and need hope.

 

Remember them when others say “You cannot . . .”

Remember them when you know you can.

Remember them when it is difficult to see the good.

 

Remember them when those less fortunate come your way.

Remember them when someone is unkind.

Remember them – forgive and be compassionate.

 

Remember them when you see injustices.

Remember them and know your voice can be heard.

Remember them and stand up for what is right.

 

Remember them and know that we are all equal.

Remember them and know that our children become what they see.

Remember them and know that your actions determine history.

 

Remember them and know that obstacles are opportunities.

Remember them and know the greatest success often comes from failure.

Remember them and know you have so much to give.

 

Remember them and walk the path of peace.

Remember them and never give up.

Remember them and reach for the stars.

Disclaimer: Opinions are my own and the information is provided for educational purposes within the guidelines of fair use. While I am a Registered Dietitian this information is not intended to provide individual health guidance. Please see a health professional for individual health care purposes.

In memory of Martin Luther King Jr, a Bible passage

Ephesians 4.31-32,

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, with all malice, and be kind to one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”

New Testament, page 219 Holy Bible, Revised Standard Edition, (Nelson, 1952)

Martin Luther King Jr was assassinated after he started working actively to fight poverty and inequality in general rather than focusing exclusively on equal rights for all races.

Martin Luther King, Jr. was born 86 years ago on January 15, 1929. The American pastor was a humanitarian and leader in the African-American Civil Rights Movement. He won the Nobel Peace Prize in 1964 for his work towards reducing racial inequality with nonviolent methods. He was a gifted speaker and his “I Have a Dream” speech continues to inspire listeners. He also spoke about poverty and against the Vietnam War later in his life. [1] Nonviolence was his life work but sadly he was assassinated on April 4, 1968. Wikipedia.

In our modern society inequality between the rich and poor has become a greater divide and sadly effects children – our future generation – to a greater extent than all age groups. Senior Citizens are also more represented among the poor, especially single women or widows.

Some statistics about the effects of growing up in single parent households are included in the following article: https://fee.org/articles/fatherless-families-are-far-too-common/

Money can’t buy happiness or health, that is true, but it can help pay the heat and electricity bill and buy adequate groceries and pay for childcare when needed. A two-parent household can have more stability against health or other financial emergencies because more childcare is available and more income may be available. With limited jobs in some areas and expensive housing it may be difficult to find a job nearby and time can be needed for a longer commute which increases the need for childcare. Some government programs are available to help families with children but the benefits may be small and can be linked to being a single parent and have requirements for working or volunteering at certain number of hours. Children need reliable and regular childcare from loving caregivers for best future and current health, both mental and physical.

The children of today will be tomorrow’s taxpayers and workers or they will be tomorrow’s crime problem or mental health or chronic illness patients. A food supply that promotes illness is part of the problem and denying that is not benefiting us today or tomorrow. Today we already are jailing too many of our workers, 30% of prisoners in the US fall into the millennial age bracket and the majority of prisoners in general are male – where have our fathers gone? to prison possibly. fee.org/too-many-millennial-men-are-behind-bars

Dr. King Jr. expanded his goals with civil rights to include ending racism and poverty. A Poor People’s March was organized for 1968,

‘The Poor People’s Campaign was part of the second phase of the civil rights movement. King said, “We believe the highest patriotism demands the ending of the war and the opening of a bloodless war to final victory over racism and poverty”‘ (Poor People’s Campaign)

The topic is discussed in more detail in a 2014 article: .thenation.com/mlk-our-struggle-genuine-equality-which-means-economic-equality/

Previous posts of mine celebrating Martin Luther King Jr’s words:

Happy Independence Day, Let Freedom Ring!

Many quotes including one of Martin Luther King Jr. are included in this post regarding the concept “One learns by trying.” His quote that was included with a link to the full source is:

Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”
― Martin Luther King Jr.A Testament of Hope: The Essential Writings and Speeches

The same quote was found when I was searching online for the source of a phrase on a protest poster I saw in a picture. The poster was being carried by a young girl and it said “Hate breeds hate.” The search engine provided the famous quote by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr as the closest, ““Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”  Trust in Love, World Humanitarian Day

Ephesians 5.8:

“for once you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord; walk as children of light”

New Testament, page 219, Holy Bible, Revised Standard Edition, (Nelson, 1952)

He is a leader who led by positive example and his lessons are worth rejoicing and reviewing today and everyday.

Courage wears many colors because fear is found in many shades. Martin Luther King Jr. taught a nation how to be brave in the face of fear and to stand up for equal rights at drinking fountains and soda fountains. Accepting a need for change meant sometimes facing a risk of physical harm too. For some to face that risk and survive helped reduce the fear for others and eventually helped spread new habits of acceptance into future generations.

Disclaimer: Opinions are my own and the information is provided for educational purposes within the guidelines of fair use. While I am a Registered Dietitian this information is not intended to provide individual health guidance. Please see a health professional for individual health care purposes.