We are becoming a more connected world and cultural and gender clashes may be more of a risk with the increased connection made possible by the internet and Social Media sites. Our news can arrive in a social media post faster than our newspapers used to be written, printed and hand delivered by a neighborhood schoolchild. With more connection may come a greater need for responsibility and respect for our cultural and gender differences.
The phrase gender differences is even different and that has increased some cultural difficulties as more traditional religions and cultures have not fully accepted that sexual and gender differences are based on biology rather than moral choices. Gender differences are increasing in animal species not just in humans – it is biology not a moral choice when observed across many species and until we can openly discuss that and many other topics we may not be able to accept a need to change our industrial choices rather than worrying about personal differences or whether individual differences are a moral choice.
Endocrine disruptors are a group of chemicals that are being produced in plastics and elsewhere in industry and once in our environment and water they are difficult for humans and other animal species to avoid – and will be difficult for humans to try to remove from the environment when we recognize that something needs to be done and that we are the species that needs to do it. An introduction to the topic is available here: Endocrine Disruptors.
The Me Too movement has grown on social media outlets from an earlier time and it involves more openness surrounding sexual harassment or assault rather than silence and shame. Women and men have been kept in silence regarding stories of sexual matters as a business or social reputation can be ruined by being a victim or someone accused of sexual assault or impropriety. Change is needed as even at the highest levels of elected officials it is the elected official that has been protected at taxpayer expense rather than the employee or volunteer who experienced sexual harassment or assault. A bill has been introduced to make the process more fair and a counter bill may be passed that makes the process even less transparent and more protective of the elected officials – our public servants, hired to protect and serve the nation; it is a significant problem as it has recently been disclosed that $15 million has been aid of taxpayer money to settle sexual harassment claims filed against elected officials who then continued to serve in their positions without disclosure to the public. Read more: Plot to Change Law Protecting Politicians Accused of Sexual Harassment, antimedia.org.
The risk of accusations that can not be proven or may have been misunderstandings however does need adequate representation for both parties as it is not just to the individual but can also extend to family and wider circles and yet we are all just people. An excellent article discusses the topic and history in more detail and includes a TED talk video with a personal account of date rape and the shame that negatively effected both the girl and boy later into their adult lives. They eventually met and share their story together in the video. They include the warning that their story is not a recommendation or encouragement for everyone who has experienced a bad sexual experience to share the story or seek out the other person as in some cultures death and imprisonment of the victim can be a risk and approaching or accusing someone of assault can be met negatively instead of with remorse and reconciliation. Growth is also possible though and can help both individuals as well as help educate our society as a whole. See wakeup-world.com: Are We Ready for Truth and Reconciliation Around Sexual Violence? #MeToo, link.
The warning to be cautious about sharing details of identity in cases of bad sexual experiences is something I’ve also been encouraging because unless proof is available legal charges of defamation/slander/libel could potentially be charged against the accuser or simply danger due to the reputation risk may result in mental harm to the accused. In one recent case an accused person who claimed to be innocent of the accusation of impropriety has taken his life in a suicide; may he find some peace, and condolences to his family. Warning, article contains a possible suicide note and inflammatory social media post by the former elected official: nytimes.com
It is an uncomfortable story that may have involved drunkenness on the man’s part which can cause memory gaps. Having a designated driver and designated remember-er may be a good idea when drinking too much – or not drinking too much is a better idea. The girl did share the story with her therapist in 2013 and the incident was reported to the local police at the time so one is left wondering why it wasn’t acted on then, except that without proof of physical assault or video or DNA evidence a she said/he didn’t remember story can just lead to problems for the girl. nytimes.com
Wrong is wrong but accidental slips of the hand in a public setting that was apologized for shouldn’t be something that ends a career either. Balance and compassion when listening to a she-felt-uncomfortable and he-doesn’t-even-remember story may be necessary. It may also help to realize or admit that humans aren’t a fully monogamous species, we are only about 50% on average monogamous in our pair bonds compared to some other more lifelong pair bonding species. So it may help reduce emotional pain to remember or admit that love for one person is not necessarily betrayed by a temporary wondering glance or thought of another person. Hormones are powerful but someone familiar with the long-term emotional and intellectual connections of a committed relationship should be able to understand and have compassion for the other person as a whole rather than viewing physical temporary feelings as a lack of love or betrayal for the long-term connection.
We learn from each other lessons that may be painful at the time but necessary for growth. Denying or blocking out memories doesn’t allow for the growth that may have been needed for long term health of the body and spirit/mind. Drunken actions do count and someone who can’t remember their actions may not be reliable as an elected official but suicide isn’t growth either.
If no proof is available then sharing an uncomfortable story without names or identifying details can help relieve one’s own emotional pain and burden without risking legal harm to oneself or reputation or psychological harm to another. Trying to heal oneself is a positive thing but causing harm to another person and their family seems like a larger negative especially if there was simply a misunderstanding of intent and result. An improper touch can be an accident of timing that truly is innocent but which might be taken more seriously by a person who is fearful. Expectation or over-heightened sense of fear can lead to misinterpreting a situation that is innocent. Talking privately with a therapist might help to review a situation from different viewpoints.
Another article on the same site encourages and challenges us to meet the challenge of our new inter-connected world in a positive way – the internet can help us learn and grow and we don’t know what our collective minds can do together but studies suggest that it can be incredible. Collective consciousness research (a collection of videos & research on the topic- I haven’t reviewed all of it but have seen one or two of the speakers material, there is coincidental/odd overlap in near death experiences across cultures/different languages) and the overlap of the Golden Rule across many cultures suggests that our cultures are more similar than different. See wakeup-world.com: Experiencing a Collective Shift Through Personal Transformation, link.
The article is by an author of a book on the subject which I have not read but the topic sounds interesting and other research on prayer and healing, has been mixed and will likely be difficult to prove one way or the other conclusively as the benefits of meditation may also be involved and prayer is somewhat similar to (a review of the research), and work on prayer/meditative chanting or positive thought and formation of snowflakes has also indicated there may be power in groups working together with focused mental thoughts. The later work on the healing power of water by the snowflake researcher was not able to be replicated but his early work suggests possibilities that are interesting. I mention it in an early article I had published elsewhere which also includes a brief discussion of the medical power of positive suggestion observed in the placebo effect and the reverse the nocebo effect, the medical power of negative suggestion: Quarks, bosons, and Abbess Zenkai Blanche Hartman, link.
This was also posted earlier but was closed and is somewhat pertinent to the Quarks, bosons… article and to the idea of a collective consciousness or universal connectedness of positive or negative thoughts/placebo and nocebo effects. With our increased interconnectedness via the internet and social media we may all need to be more aware of the value in our collective differences and similarities. Social connection can be healing but it can also cause hurt feelings which can lead to physical trauma in the brain, discussed in more detail on another of my websites, G3.4: Social contact would protect against oxidative stress, effectiveselfcare.info:
*regarding quarks and my interest in them – purely amateur. What I’ve read though is fascinating and quantum entanglement seems like it could explain quite a few ‘unknowns.’ Pairs of quarks can become free of the rest of an atom or molecule and may retain all of the information of the whole in an energy form. Holograms are made of light and show a whole image but without the whole item having to be present. Loose quarks may (possibly) explain some of the unexplained phenomenon of psychic ‘seeing the future’ or ‘channeling ghosts’ or ‘seeing the past.’ People who have had near death experiences share remarkably similar stories about their experiences. I have come to believe that there is some sort of collective unconscious or cosmos energy, or God energy, that all things are a part of to some extent.
Energy equals mass according to Albert Einstein and according to reports he was made uncomfortable by the ‘spookier’ aspects of the theory. I find them fascinating. Our planet orbits the sun and overlaps its own path over the course of time. Loose quarks may still exist here and there and everywhere along that orbiting path, carrying bits of energy left over from the time of dinosaurs or from any point in history and maybe even the future. A person who dissociates may be able to visit the cosmos/collective unconscious/God energy as dissociation may be a doorway into the energy side of the universe. The history of dissociation might be due to a history of childhood trauma, or a near death experience, or due to years of practice meditating, or due to use of a hallucinogenic substance.
We don’t know what we don’t know until we open our minds to accept that we need to learn more and seek a variety of answers until some seem to consistently be a fairly good fit for the evidence in front of us. ‘Facts’ can fit most situations but rarely can any one scientific answer or theory be 100% correct in every single situation. Ideas that are mostly right, most of the time, are more typical of science findings. Science is a journey with many travelers who pass along ideas from one generation to the next on into the future (hopefully).
Are ghosts fake or psychic knowledge? or Teleportation? Fake news and quarks have nothing to do with each other, but quarks and quantum entanglement have been in the real news in a story that sounds like it has to be fake – or spooky. A new era of computing technology, involving the ‘teleportation’ of information via quantum entangled quarks, was discovered at the same time, on opposite sides of the planet, by two different teams, independently of each other. The article makes light of the coincidence with the statement that it often happens in science that discoveries are reached simultaneously — I wouldn’t have bet money on it happening.
Back to reality – in a nutshell, teleportation of the information is referring to the fact that the packet of computer code disappears as it is sent from one computer and it appears/reappears simultaneously at another computer in another location. The process involves quantum entanglement of quarks and is worth reading about firsthand, click on the link in the Tweet, or here: https://t.co/cErYmFPmVA.
Not included in the article but back to reality for the idea of human teleportation – in a nutshell, I’ve read elsewhere that the quantum entanglement and energy = mass conversions are only possible at the atomic/subatomic level as larger groups of molecules stabilized each other too much to allow teleportation of the individual particles — or something like that. The second response on this question forum mentions that only single photons of light have been transferred by this quantum entanglement computing method and that larger masses would be too complex. https://www.quora.com/Is-teleportation-possible?no_redirect=1#!n=24
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